Being There!

We are humans. In normal conditions we can’t live alone in solitude. We always yearn for company. It may be our own kith and kin or our friends, our extended family. The negative emotions fade away when we have love and support without any conditions or questions. The stress of life vanishes when we know we have the shoulder to lean on.

This need to be cared for, can be considered, one of the greatest needs we all have. All the hassles and troubles vanish if we feel the presence of our loved ones with us. The magic of a physical hug is indescribable. When we get that, our heartbeats return to normal, the suffocation ends and we start to feel valued and cared.

The most interesting part is we all are basically empathetic in our nature. We feel for others naturally. Just stop for a moment and think, if caring is our natural attribute, what’s stopping us from exhibiting it? What can we do to build the habit of catering to other’s needs consciously?

Still, even after knowing this fact, we restrict ourselves from giving our love to others or ask for that love from others. Why is it so?

Is it because we don’t want to project ourselves as weak and vulnerable?

Is it because we think others will consider us low if we ask for help?

Is it because of the fear of rejection?

Is it because we think we will be taken for granted if we offer help?

Is it because we won’t find the other person suitable to console us?

Is it some trust issues?

Is it because we are afraid of deceit and backbiting

Contemplate on this and come up with your own answers.

If you ask me, I would say, DON’T EVER HESITATE TO OFFER HELP AND SUPPORT EVEN WHEN IT’S NOT SOLICITED! AND ASK FOR IT WHEN YOU’RE IN NEED TOO!!

Love is something which is unconditional in its original form. We only make it otherwise by adding many shades to it. We doubt, degrade and reject the love extended towards us. This is what contaminates the originality and spoils the whole purpose of love. 

I’ve seen parents being denied this assurance by their offsprings and vis-a-versa; Siblings yearning for each other’s love; and friends being away due to misunderstandings. It is so painful to watch people moving away from relationships due to their ego/fear factors.

My poetic expression on the same view as how we crave for the dear one to hold us at times of our need and how we can be there for them too!

Hold
Hold me close when
you feel the tremor in my gut
of losing you to the threatening life

Hold me close when
I feel lost in the wilderness of 
the confusing emotions of this bewildering life

Hold me close when
I need the reassurance of your 
presence in my lopsided messy life

Hold me close when
you hear the breaking of the shield 
of fragile fake promises of this made-up life 

Hold me close when
I bow down to the intimidating 
crippling pressures of this demanding life
 
Hold me close when
I feel the emptiness created by your 
absence in my not so promising life

Hold me close when 
you sense my loneliness amidst
the cacophony of this bustling life

More so importantly… 
Hold me close when
you feel alone, frustrated, directionless
and in need of everlasting love and affection
I'll embrace you with all my motherly love and 
make sure you smile through your hassle-filled life! 

Let’s hold the hands of our elders which had held ours long ago and give them the assurance, we are with them.

Let’s hug our younger ones and tell them vocally we always care for them.

Let’s embrace our friends during their painful experiences, showing our solidarity with them.

Let’s love our relatives unconditionally so that we too get the same response from them.

Let’s respect and extend our helping hand to strangers to demonstrate we care for them even being unknown to each other.

Let’s make this world bearable and beautiful by being kind and loving to each other, while BEING THERE at the exact moment!!

Lifting other’s morales when they feel crushed by the situations. 

Whatssay??

-Sumne