I called my new found writer friend Jyot who is residing in Hyderabad. He said he was busy preparing dinner (His recipes of yummy dishes are popular on his insta handle too)
I remembered him saying he was doing laundry when I had called him a few days back. He belongs to yesteryear’s Gen. I was a little taken aback by his reply. I knew he is a mechanical engineer and a yoga guru. But never anticipated he would do the house chores like cooking, laundry etc on a regular basis.
I think he guessed my confusion and said “ hey, my wife is working outside the house and I work inside the house. Is there anything wrong with that?”
I mumbled “No no, but to be honest, this is so new to me!”
Well, this Gen is very much into this transaction of role reversal. While the wife toils at the office, the husband takes care of the house management. If it’s not a full commitment, at least the husband shares the load of house chores too.
This is a welcoming change as both the partners should be responsible for managing the home they both are building together. There is no demarcation as to who is the so-called breadwinner of the household now.
A POETIC TRIBUTE TO ALL THOSE MEN WHO APPRECIATE THE CONTRIBUTION OF HOUSEWIVES AND ALSO CONTRIBUTE MAJORLY WHILE RUNNING THE HOUSE SUCCESSFULLY..
While other men are busy,
getting ready to go to office,
He is very busy waking the children up
getting them ready for the school,
keeping the freshly brewed coffee
and hot breakfast on the table
Packing the lunch boxes for
wifey and children
With all the care taken about
The nutrition
While other men are busy
in their respective workplace
He is very busy in his work place
THE HOME!
Cleaning, dusting, washing, laundry
all are taken care of
Calling wife in between to ask
what would she prefer for the dinner
is the best part of his chores
While other men are relaxing
in the evening with a cup of tea
he is very busy with the children
helping them to finish their Homeworks
Motivating, coaxing them to study
Presenting steamy hot tea to the tired wife
Chit chatting with her about her day
While other men are busy
watching the TV news, sports etc,
he is very busy preparing dinner for the family
Catering to the whims of the family
Giving all the comfort to the family
Putting children to bed
While other men are busy
sleeping cozily under the blanket
He is very busy
preparing for the next day
before he puts his feet up!
He is the house hubby
Opted for the housework
over the office work
Bearing the responsibility of
running the house as
the wife goes out for work
Making the life easy for
wife and kids
Is he being accepted in our society
where he isn't following the said rules
'Ridicule and talk behind the back'
are things he is getting from people outside
Even the elders of home aren't comfortable
Tell me, is there anything wrong with that?
Tending to the family, whether being in the house
or being outside, is the duty of the man/woman
So, he is rightfully right
Three cheers to his clan who are considerate
and opt for the most difficult job of the world "HOUSE HUBBY"
There were some movies like (Ki & Ka, Daawat-e-ishq etc) also made on the same theme where the man opts for role reversal and gets rebuttals. It’s not easy to break societal norms and we see very few exceptions.
In the western world this isn’t a big deal at all. People don’t fix roles there. No bias on “who does what?”. Everything and anything is accepted and people aren’t being ridiculed for their work.
Some contemplations:
Will our patriarchal society ever accept a man sharing the household responsibilities with the wife?
Will the women folk feel comfortable to welcome this newness in their life?
What will the children of such families feel/undergo as the people around will be responding differently to their father being at home while the mother goes out for work
Your views are most welcome and interactions only can bring clarity to our minds…
While celebrating the international women’s day on 8th of March, this interesting topic of freeing women of their fixed duties made sense to me.. What do you say???
by Sumana Venkat
English 
Hindi
Wonderful article Sumana Madam 👌👏
Thanks a lot Soumya❤️❤️
Hats off to you first kept yourself in multitasking and multi talented woman. ..👏👏
I actually liked your way of thinking beyond and beneath the society you talk about all aspects in boxes never let go. .
“House Husbands“ your write up is good and now a days common … and society is baby stepping towards If tobe kept asise gender discrimination !!!!
Thanks Jayashree.. I’m honoured🙏🙏
Wah Suman very well written
Perfect subject too
What a beautiful change in society mindsets
Kudos to the new era A new generation combo who know how to balance the journey of life together without making it look like doing each other a favour
Cheers 😍😍
Your dost Dams
Aweee..there you go friend… lovesssssssssssss ❤️❤️❤️
Wow superb write-up mafam 🤗🤗👌👌
Described superbly younger generation’s
day-to-days lifestyles and i think society has to think out off the box about the gender discrimination. . Yeah its changing
Yup Jayashree..the thinking has to change, n it’s actually changing..thank you for responding🙏
Described superbly younger generation’s
day-to-days lifestyles and i think society has to think out off the box about the gender discrimination. . Yeah its changing
Thankss Shailaja
Wonderful Article Sumana madam 👌👏
Behind every successful career woman, there is a man who supports her in continuing her career and maintaining a balanced life. I have never had to break my career, despite its stress and long working hours, because of my husband, who supports me in every aspect of our home. His unwavering support in managing household chores, our children’s studies, and every little responsibility allows me to pursue my career with confidence. He is not just my partner but my greatest pillar of strength, always encouraging me to move forward😊
You have a wonderful husband and a fantastic human being with you..wishing you both a more fulfilled journey together..thanks dearie❤️
Sumana maybe my take on this may appear outdated and old fashioned. The spouses may share each others’ emotions, sentiments and most important household chores. With both of them going out to work and coming back dog tired both will lack patience. The solution lies with them. I have never subscribed to the fact that a wife has to wait for the husband to come home and stand head and foot to serve him, likewise a husband taking care on the home front cent percent. It is unpalatable to me to think of a husband as an effeminate character or a wife being masculine. Somewhere there lies a balance the couple have to figure out. Not a progressive thought, perhaps, I hope I am not judgmental.
I’m obliged Pushpa.. I’m glad ypu voiced your view..nothing is outdated or wrong..whichever way is workable , that’s the best solution!! Thank you 🙏🙏
Very well written. This change must happen.
Thanks much Lalitga🙏🙏..keep encouraging 😁
Described nowa days younger generation’s life style. .
Yeah society has too think out off the box about gender discrimination in all aspects
it’s changing. .
HI SUMANA, nicely written.There is nothing wrong in becoming the “house hubby”. It is a welcoming change. If there is perfect understanding between Husband and Wife about the reversal of duties, everything will workout well.
I expect to read more from your pen.
Meena
Loved it Sumana. True story in our life from 2009 to 2016.From the time of retirement of my husband to my retirement. My husband enjoyed it and I too enjoyed in doing duties in my workplace which benefitted my whole family.
Woww Sumithra.. that’s a welcoming factor..i salute to you guys🙏🙏
And thanks a lot for the response🙏🙏
I’m obliged Meena..thanks a lot🙏
Loved it Sumana. It happened in our life from 2009 to 2016.From the date of retirement of my husband till my retirement. Due to house husband role of my husband I could totally surrender to my institution and I got everything in return and the whole family benefitted. After all all are humans.
You said it..all are humans..thanks for this feedback🙏🙏
Well conceived and timely for Indian Society
Hi Sumana,
Well written. Your opinions expressed eloquently. You have given the reader a peep into the world of house husbands. I hope it’s an inspiration to the young gen to emulate. I rather feel it should not just hope. As u have mentioned, it’s not uncommon in today’s young gen and rightly so. But to break out of the shackles of the previous generation is a tough ask.
Keep up the good work, I will also have a look at your write ups in yourquote.
Good luck for future endeavours.
Kalpana
Very thoughtful writeup for the special day Sumana! Kudos to you.
Let us call this role a Homemaker. The value, a homemaker brings to the family is under-estimated or even jeered at in our society. Yet it is the toughest job which holds the family together!
I like your profile. Congratulations on your multfaceted achievements!
Well written Sumana. I personally appreciate the move! It is the need of the hour I feel. But it will take some time for the society to accept! Even a large no.of ladies may not accept it right now even if the men are ready to be house husbands!!!