House Husbands!

Posted on By Sumana 28 टिप्पणी House Husbands! में

I called my new found writer friend Jyot who is residing in Hyderabad. He said he was busy preparing dinner (His recipes of yummy dishes are popular on his insta handle too)

I remembered him saying he was doing laundry when I had called him a few days back. He belongs to yesteryear’s Gen. I was a little taken aback by his reply. I knew he is a mechanical engineer and a yoga guru. But never anticipated he would do the house chores like cooking, laundry etc on a regular basis. 

I think he guessed my confusion and said “ hey, my wife is working outside the house and I work inside the house. Is there anything wrong with that?” 

I mumbled “No no, but to be honest, this is so new to me!” 

Well, this Gen is very much into this transaction of role reversal. While the wife toils at the office, the husband takes care of the house management. If it’s not a full commitment, at least the husband shares the load of house chores too. 

This is a welcoming change as both the partners should be responsible for managing the home they both are building together. There is no demarcation as to who is the so-called breadwinner of the household now.

A POETIC TRIBUTE TO ALL THOSE MEN WHO APPRECIATE THE CONTRIBUTION OF HOUSEWIVES AND ALSO CONTRIBUTE MAJORLY WHILE RUNNING THE HOUSE SUCCESSFULLY..

While other men are busy, 
getting ready to go to office, 
He is very busy waking the children up
getting them ready for the school, 
keeping the freshly brewed coffee 
and hot breakfast on the table 
Packing the lunch boxes for 
wifey and children
With all the care taken about
The nutrition 

While other men are busy
in their respective workplace
He is very busy in his work place
THE HOME!
Cleaning, dusting, washing, laundry 
all are taken care of
Calling wife in between to ask 
what would she prefer for the dinner
is the best part of his chores

While other men are relaxing
in the evening with a cup of tea 
he is very busy with the children
helping them to finish their Homeworks
Motivating, coaxing them to study
Presenting steamy hot tea to the tired wife
Chit chatting with her about her day 

While other men are busy
watching the TV news, sports etc,  
he is very busy preparing dinner for the family
Catering to the whims of the family 
Giving all the comfort to the family
Putting children to bed

While other men are busy
sleeping cozily under the blanket
He is very busy
preparing for the next day 
before he puts his feet up! 

He is the house hubby
Opted for the housework
over the office work
Bearing the responsibility of
running the house as 
the wife goes out for work
Making the life easy for 
wife and kids

Is he being accepted in our society
where he isn't following the said rules
'Ridicule and talk behind the back' 
are things he is getting from people outside
Even the elders of home aren't comfortable

Tell me, is there anything wrong with that? 
Tending to the family, whether being in the house
or being outside, is the duty of the man/woman
So, he is rightfully right
Three cheers to his clan who are considerate 
and opt for the most difficult job of the world "HOUSE HUBBY"

There were some movies like (Ki & Ka, Daawat-e-ishq etc) also made on the same theme where the man opts for role reversal and gets rebuttals. It’s not easy to break societal norms and we see very few exceptions. 

In the western world this isn’t a big deal at all. People don’t fix roles there. No bias on “who does what?”. Everything and anything is accepted and people aren’t being ridiculed for their work. 

Some contemplations:

Will our patriarchal society ever accept a man sharing the household responsibilities with the wife?

Will the women folk feel comfortable to welcome this newness in their life?

What will the children of such families feel/undergo as the people around will be responding differently to their father being at home while the mother goes out for work

Your views are most welcome and interactions only can bring clarity to our minds…

While celebrating the international women’s day on 8th of March, this interesting topic of freeing women of their fixed duties made sense to me.. What do you say??? 

by Sumana Venkat

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  • Meet Sumana, a multifaceted individual from Karnataka, who has carved a unique path for herself. With a strong foundation in science, she went on to pursue a PG Diploma in Training and Development, which marked the beginning of her journey as a behavioural trainer. Over the years, she has had the privilege of training individuals from diverse backgrounds, including students, police personnel, managers, and many more. Her expertise extends beyond training, as she is also a certified facilitator of Spoken English, empowering individuals to communicate effectively. However, it was the pandemic that unlocked a new passion within her - writing. She discovered her flair for writing on the popular app, YourQuote, where she has authored an impressive 10,000+ posts to date. Sumana is a versatile writer who has contributed to numerous anthologies, including a prestigious world record holder. Her writing prowess spans across three languages - Kannada, Hindi, and English, making her a true polyglot. Her ability to express herself in multiple languages has enabled her to connect with a broader audience, showcasing her thoughts, ideas, and creativity. Through her writing, Sumana aims to inspire, motivate, and entertain her readers. Her work is a testament to her dedication, passion, and creativity. As she continues to write and inspire, her journey serves as a reminder that it's never too late to discover new talents and pursue one's dreams.

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Comments (28) on “House Husbands!”

  2. Hats off to you first kept yourself in multitasking and multi talented woman. ..👏👏
    I actually liked your way of thinking beyond and beneath the society you talk about all aspects in boxes never let go. .
    “House Husbands“ your write up is good and now a days common … and society is baby stepping towards If tobe kept asise gender discrimination !!!!

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  5. Wonderful Article Sumana madam 👌👏
    Behind every successful career woman, there is a man who supports her in continuing her career and maintaining a balanced life. I have never had to break my career, despite its stress and long working hours, because of my husband, who supports me in every aspect of our home. His unwavering support in managing household chores, our children’s studies, and every little responsibility allows me to pursue my career with confidence. He is not just my partner but my greatest pillar of strength, always encouraging me to move forward😊

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  6. Sumana maybe my take on this may appear outdated and old fashioned. The spouses may share each others’ emotions, sentiments and most important household chores. With both of them going out to work and coming back dog tired both will lack patience. The solution lies with them. I have never subscribed to the fact that a wife has to wait for the husband to come home and stand head and foot to serve him, likewise a husband taking care on the home front cent percent. It is unpalatable to me to think of a husband as an effeminate character or a wife being masculine. Somewhere there lies a balance the couple have to figure out. Not a progressive thought, perhaps, I hope I am not judgmental.

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  12. Hi Sumana,
    Well written. Your opinions expressed eloquently. You have given the reader a peep into the world of house husbands. I hope it’s an inspiration to the young gen to emulate. I rather feel it should not just hope. As u have mentioned, it’s not uncommon in today’s young gen and rightly so. But to break out of the shackles of the previous generation is a tough ask.
    Keep up the good work, I will also have a look at your write ups in yourquote.
    Good luck for future endeavours.
    Kalpana

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